My Thoughts on Life, Women, and Relationships.

This blog post is one I have been wanting to write for several months now. A friendship and a few books formed my views about this issue. Although the friendship is now extinct, I’ve realized now more than ever, how God places people and certain conditions in your life to teach you huge lessons. Unfortunately in my case, I always have to learn the hard way: From my mistakes.

The Meet Market.

Ladies. Puh- Leeeeeeeez. I know you miss amazing male influences in your life. But. Believe it Or Not. I have a feeling that THE Real and Lasting Relationship- The one that you so badly crave will happen in God’s Timing. You just need to concentrate on being patient and enjoying your Singleness. And I'm Pretty sure you wont find it out on the Market.

I honestly believe that singleness and marriage are two distinct gifts that God gives us; and therefore we need to enjoy both while we have them. I’m marveling at how some freshmen have started relationships already. How the heck do some of you people think you know someone that well to date them after only 2 months!? Unless you’ve spent every day with that person (which if you have, I am sorry for you and your absolute Lack of social skills) It’s not really possible to know that person Well enough to date them. (Not to even mention those engaged)

My youth pastor went over a relationship series twice in the six years I was attending my youth group. Both times, I didn’t quite understand. He taught about crazy ideas like, Date when the person is actually marriage material- and although the commitment isn’t as great as engagement, have marriage as an end goal. No “Social dating”. Being your average 7th grader I thought the man was crazy. NO DATING? WHAT!? I honestly don’t know when it finally “Clicked” In my mind, but I’m glad it did. Well. Although I don’t agree 100% still with everything he said, I can tell you today that I am happy I have never been on a date. It’s not like I’m a prude. Or I hate women. (I like hanging with the ladies…. Lol). However, To be consumed by the thought of a relationship is quite frankly Idolatry; it also isn’t enjoying the gift of singleness to it’s fullness.
To you Ladies that Came to School specifically to find a husband: I'm going to level with you for a second. Men. Are NOT as amazing as you think. And i'm reasonably sure that marriage isn't Easy either. So Step Back, and enjoy being Single. Please. Youre Going to save yourself A lot of hurt by doing so.

To the Men.

When you get married. IF you get married. Do you want your wife to tell you she has had her heart stolen, trampled one, and abused? Or that pieces of her heart have been left along the way, and that you don’t get all of it? OF FREAKING COURSE YOU DON’T. So Sit Down. Shut up. And stop believing the lies that the world tells you about the role of women. I Am sick of how men look at women. I am ashamed of how I Have looked at women. And It Needs to stop. NOW. Although women have equal rights in society now, the Socially accepted and prevalent view is that WOMEN ARE HERE For One thing. To Make Men Happy. For Men’s pleasure. Now, listen. Even if you don’t cognitively acknowledge that you believe that women are here for you, you’re more than likely affected by these worldly beliefs.

Instead of considering women as “options” men should think about them as Sisters. Although I’m pretty sure my sister can handle herself, if she were ever hurt by anyone and her husband were incapable of dealing with the matter: Guess Who would be next in line? Yep. The Brother. That’s how we need to be with our sisters in Christ. We need to be ANGERED by them being hurt emotionally and mentally (and obviously physically). I think this is an interesting point, as most men (saved or unsaved) are angered by women being physically abused- However not many care about the condition of their hearts. Men: Protect their hearts. Women: Make our job easier and Don’t throw it out there.

All I’m suggesting is that Men Need to think of women as Sisters (and treat them as such), be ultimately concerned about their emotional welfare, and care about their walk with God. I’m suggesting that Christian men need to show the world we are different – not only by how we live, but by how we treat women, how we View them, and how we protect them. In this way we will show the love of Christ and be lights to our Pornographic Society.